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HowlLive Ep 2. Post N*T Clarity
Ever wondered why some police interviews include questions about your bathroom habits? Or debated the merits of one-ply toilet paper versus an itchy shirt? Join us for a rollercoaster of laughs and introspection as we journey from savoring high-end tequila to reminiscing about wild nights in places like Wonderland and Foxy Lady. We toss around "Would You Rather" scenarios that challenge our comfort zones and explore the hilarity of law enforcement quirks with tales from the vibrant streets of New Orleans. Rudy might just join us for a reshoot, and who knows—maybe with a bottle of Don Julio 1942 in hand!
On a deeper note, we navigate the intricate tapestry of life, love, and personal growth. From contemplating the decision to circumcise to asking if true love triumphs over wealth, we dive into conversations that juxtapose societal norms with personal beliefs. Our musings on the nature of happiness and security reveal the delicate balance between financial stability and fulfilling connections. We also reflect on the complexities of relationships, examining how common beliefs can forge stronger ties or create friction, all while laughing at life's absurdities—like fearing ghosts, lightning, or getting trapped in an elevator.
And just when you think it can't get more candid, we delve into the nuances of self-love and the sometimes awkward reality of post-nut clarity. From the pressures of modern dating to the influence of pornography on personal expectations, we share insights with humor and honesty. Whether it's charging crystals under a full moon or debating the best SpongeBob SquarePants episode, we keep the conversation light yet meaningful. So, grab your drink of choice, maybe some apple juice or tequila, and get ready for an episode that’s as entertaining as it is thought-provoking.
yes, welcome to another episode of how alive this is just apple juice. Why is yours empty? I love apple juice. Why is yours empty? What?
Speaker 2:I love apple juice.
Speaker 1:It's funny being on the other end of that. I'm used to like being the one where mine's empty.
Speaker 2:I had a long work day yeah.
Speaker 1:Do you think that people use that as a justification to drink a lot? I just did yeah.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you're right're right typically I don't drink, but you know, when somebody offers you a high quality tequila beverage, what are you gonna say? No thanks, yeah, no, you gotta drink it.
Speaker 1:You're gonna take it. I have some 1972 in the closet too. What's? That it's like uh is that brown?
Speaker 2:no, no, I can't do brown no, no, no, it's 1942, I believe 1942 what Tequila?
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's like a $200 bottle.
Speaker 2:It's like this big old. He said it's a $200 bottle.
Speaker 1:It's like this big old. He's flexing on us right now. It's like this big old thing.
Speaker 2:Why didn't you bring that out? Is that for the special guests?
Speaker 1:Yeah, no.
Speaker 2:That's for Rudy him we didn't, we well?
Speaker 1:oh yeah, you did a podcast uh uh, we shot one but, uh, audio came out messed up so we were using our phones and stuff like that. So we're gonna reshoot, uh, with the don julio. So, yeah, we're gonna do it right. What's up? What's so funny?
Speaker 2:what are you reaching for down there? I'm trying to I just need to know, because I'm coming into this. I just need to pull out a strap. What the fuck. I'm coming into this blind. Are there going to be any more masks or anything I should?
Speaker 1:talk about no, no, no, no masks, did you?
Speaker 2:get any hate after any of the last few things you've done.
Speaker 1:Yeah, oh, rudy, did you get my message? Big dog, he gave us a heart about the donna willio. Yeah, we were gonna shoot something the other night, but it just didn't. It was like conflicting schedules and stuff, so but yeah, no, I still got the bottle for you, big dog guys we're gonna do.
Speaker 2:Would you rather? So send some in in the in the comments. We can answer them, because yeah we've been talking about some good ones that we know I gotta. You've been writing them down.
Speaker 1:All right. So, just so everyone knows, I am on like a new streaming thing where I can see everyone's chats on like Facebook X. We're actually live on YouTube and TikTok right now too, I think, and then Instagram is kind of separate, so I'll be monitoring like back and forth. I don't want to, yeah, put too much emphasis on the chat, but we'll tune in, you know.
Speaker 2:Yeah, no, we'll tune in and yeah, I noticed last time we did this. You get distracted easily.
Speaker 1:Very easily. What's that?
Speaker 2:You're like a cat when there's a fly in the room. Well now, what Nothing? Are you about to get up and pick something?
Speaker 1:Is that on? All right, there's no sound. I got some. Would you rathers, though, that we can start with? Okay, yeah, hold on, let's go, I'm going to pull it up.
Speaker 2:Sunday night will be howling at the moon. Rudolph's coming on Sunday night.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah.
Speaker 2:Hi, rudolph, I haven't seen you in so long. Is it okay that I call him Rudolph, or do you prefer Rudy? I'd call him Rudy, okay. Yeah, I think Rudolph is a great name, though what better name? Dallas and Rudolph are two good names in my book. Yeah, you don't like the name Dallas. No, I do. She gets a lot. She would always get like, oh, it's a stripper name, or people would just call her.
Speaker 1:Texas. I don't think Dallas is a stripper name.
Speaker 2:It's a little bit of a stripper name. You think so A little bit, I don't know. What do you think is a good stripper name?
Speaker 1:I don't know.
Speaker 2:I'm not a big.
Speaker 1:Tatiana, I'm not a big fan of strip clubs. I think they're strange. I've been once.
Speaker 2:I've been once. Which one did you go to when you went? Providence ones, I assume.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I went to like when Wonderland first opened up.
Speaker 2:Okay, I thought Wonderland was a gay one.
Speaker 1:No.
Speaker 2:What I went there. Okay, I went there once for somebody's birthday, maybe before. It was Wonderland.
Speaker 1:Somebody had a birthday. Were you at that birthday party? What party was it? Steve and the.
Speaker 2:Rottas. No, you were okay Because and everyone still hearded you too I blocked my mouth.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that doesn't um. I thought that was a gay bar no, I mean when I went because I knew a guy that used to be a shot boy there no, I went at a really good time like like drake had just dropped back to back which was like a diss against meek mill and like they were playing the record and it was a fun time. But yeah, ever since then I I just like when you first walk into Wonderland.
Speaker 1:Okay, that was your first one yeah and you walk in and you're like this actually is real. I don't know.
Speaker 2:It's weird to me what was it like uh, what did you just say?
Speaker 1:a weird concept yeah, I thought it's just a weird I thought you said we had to wear condoms. I mean I'm looking, I mean whoever's going to the back room? I hope they're wearing two One for the balls and two, yeah, one on the hand. Yeah, you don't want nothing touching.
Speaker 2:I was going to say was that I've only been to what's the popular one. Foxy Lady, I've only been there and, like I, I saw some shit there. What do?
Speaker 1:you mean, you saw some shit.
Speaker 2:Like a girl was like upside down on the pole with a diamond butt plug in. She worked her whole night. Just follow that she worked. How'd you know it?
Speaker 1:was In. Yeah, no, no, no. How'd you know it was a diamond? Was the diamond in or was the diamond on the outside.
Speaker 2:The diamond was on the outside oh.
Speaker 1:I was like what'd she take it out? And then you saw it was a diamond.
Speaker 2:No, no, no, no. The diamond was on the outside.
Speaker 1:She wore that her whole shift. She wore that thing her whole shift.
Speaker 2:Honestly, I give them credit.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Did you see Rudolph's comment? Rudy's comment. Sorry, oh, dallas is here. Hi, dallas.
Speaker 1:Oh, what up. Oh, what up, all right. Oh, dallas is here. Hi, dallas. Oh what up. Oh, what up? All right. So we got some mckenzie. Okay, what's up? 413 pagan. What's up my boy?
Speaker 2:dallas. Send us a. Would you rather you're good at those, and I think adam's in here too. Adam, send up. Would you rather you're good at those two?
Speaker 1:horton 6753. Thank you for being awesomely kind to native communities. Absolutely, uh, next month is actually fearless wolf month, uh, which donates to tell native american rights. So, uh, that'll be in the spotlight on next month. So thank you for the shout out. We appreciate you a lot, okay, do you have a?
Speaker 2:do you have a? Would you rather that you came?
Speaker 1:up.
Speaker 2:Oh, yeah, yeah did someone write this in or did you come?
Speaker 1:no, no I came up with this one for you or just in general right, and I think, like the people at home can also kind of tune in and and see what. Well, I don't think a lot of people are actually going to appreciate this because, you know, some people are just dirty.
Speaker 2:Dirty yeah.
Speaker 1:But here's what you'd rather. Would you rather every shirt you ever wear to be kind of itchy, or for the rest of your life, only be able to use one ply toilet paper? Oh, this is awful. What would you rather do? I have to pick one. You have to use one ply toilet paper. Oh, this is awful. What would you have to pick one? You have to pick one. So every time you put on a shirt you're like what the fuck? This is itchy. Or every time you go to take a shit and you reach for the toilet paper it's that thin ass.
Speaker 2:One ply toilet paper not not just shitting, because women use toilet paper every time.
Speaker 1:Oh, that's, true, yeah.
Speaker 2:So I'm going to have to use fucking gift wrap paper every time. Yeah, honestly, wearing a shirt is an all-day thing. Using the bathroom is like a hopefully less than 10-minute ordeal.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:I'm going one ply. You think I'm sick for that. You think I'm sick for that. You can kick me out right now. I don't know.
Speaker 1:You can kick me out right now. I don't know that might be. Yeah, no, that's a tough one for me. I like I'm a wet wipe kind of guy. Oh, I feel like any man who goes to the bathroom and doesn't use fucking wet wipes.
Speaker 2:He's a sick fuck, he's sick.
Speaker 1:No, Fuck man, Anyone who goes to the bathroom and doesn't use wet wipes Like you. Don't put dry stuff on shit and just smear it around.
Speaker 2:Have you ever heard this? They're like okay, so let's say, you get shit on your hand, are you taking paper and wiping?
Speaker 1:it off and going about your day. No, you're going to wash that. Yeah, don't be a sicko.
Speaker 2:I know people who are like extreme and they literally have to shower after they shit. I respect it.
Speaker 1:I don't agree with it. So when there was a toilet paper shortage, I bought a bidet, the attachment, yeah, and it was Life-changing, yeah, because I didn't have to buy fucking toilet paper. And then Can we get some opinions on bidets in the comments, please. Well, I don't know if my friend Kat is in here or not, but Dallas will have opinions on bidets.
Speaker 1:Yeah, my friend Kat used it and it was like I could hear her laughing from the other room. And then my daughter tried using it once, but she was too short and it smacked her in the back of the head Like the water just came up and hit her.
Speaker 2:So funny, but you think about it like our grandparents. I'm Portuguese. My grandparents always had one in their house, always.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it seems kind of normal.
Speaker 2:It is like a cultural thing to wash your ass every time.
Speaker 1:It's a culture. It should just be a human thing. I know why isn't what? It's not an american thing, though? Yeah, it's becoming one, though I think getting in the shower afterwards is like a bit is a bit over is a bit over the edge but you know I mean better than you have time for it.
Speaker 2:I'm not gonna hate on someone who does it you know, more clean the merrier you didn't. You didn't give me your response. Would you rather wear an itchy shirt, because you're just going to use baby wipes anyway?
Speaker 1:No, I think the question was probably you can only use that. Oh, there's no alternative. Yeah, I think I might take the shirt.
Speaker 2:So did you know that when you uh, when you and you guys can correct me if there's anyone in here that is in um law enforcement, but I know somebody who was, uh, a deputy sheriff for, like, the court house and part of the process of getting the job, they ask you if you look at your shit before you flush Like a mental.
Speaker 1:Interesting. It's like a I feel like you have to though you have to look at it. Or it's like when you wipe your ass, like you have to see how much shit is left. Right, who's just raw dogging Like who's just good enough? Who's wiping two or three times and just giving up Not and just not seeing if there's anything left. That's crazy. Do you do that? That's crazy. That would be crazy to me, but you have to know if there's any shit left on the toilet paper.
Speaker 2:You have to know I wear thongs. Women wear thongs If it's a cloggable amount or not. You have to look down and check Women wear thongs, okay, if we're not looking, we could be walking around with skids for life. Damn so, yeah, it's a. It's a uh, like a psychological question that they ask you about if you look in the toilet before you flush, which is like I bet it what does that say about a?
Speaker 1:person, I bet. If you do look, though, like it makes you more normal, yeah, like it gives you points, like it means that, like you're, you're normal paying attention to details, probably, which is important in crime and law enforcement it's also important in your shit speaking of law enforcement.
Speaker 1:I was in new orleans a week and a half ago and I had this uh revelation. I was at this like bar I'm just fucking bars everywhere but I was at this like coffee shop bar and there was a bunch of ruckus behind me Ruckus who the fuck says ruckus?
Speaker 2:Tom Foolery.
Speaker 1:Anyways, this woman is freaking out on this other woman because she walked up to someone's coffee in the coffee shop.
Speaker 2:And like accidentally took it.
Speaker 1:No, and just sniffed it Like full nose in the cup, like this, and she was like yeah, I was just.
Speaker 2:Was it a cup, or was it?
Speaker 1:Yeah, it was like. Yeah, I was just, or is it.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it was like a didn't have a lid?
Speaker 1:no, no, it was like an open coffee and she was like I was just sniffing it because I wanted to know if I wanted one or not, and then she like sat down and was like eyeballing it.
Speaker 1:Like you could tell that she was probably like not right yeah, like all some drugs and stuff like that, and then a cop pulls up. That's probably in his mid-60s, probably low-70s, and I had this revelation. I'm like he's probably served for a while. So all respect to him, but I feel that the older you are in law enforcement, the more you're subjugated to probably perceiving a threat more, whereas your body doesn't work the same. So when a situation gets riled up, you're probably more applicable to use your gun. Like think about it, I don't think younger cops.
Speaker 1:You're going to feel If I'm in my 70s, my body's not working the same and I'm still patrolling the streets. I'm in a situation where I feel like someone might come at me. I know that, like my body isn't operating the same, so I'm already going to feel threatened because I know that if he does attack me, I probably won't be able to defend myself properly.
Speaker 2:Survival of the fittest.
Speaker 1:And then it's like then it's, it's even more of an excuse to be like, yeah, I'm just going to shoot from the hip now. But yeah, it was just, it was, it was just like an interesting revelation. But yeah, new Orleans was a fun time.
Speaker 2:I think in that case they don't. Usually I feel like with age and experience they start kind of rotating cops as to where they're going to be, like hey, you're going to patrol this parking lot and you're going to be doing tickets. Like certain situations, younger cops are going to be on the busy streets of New Orleans, Like you know yeah. I saw some shit. I went to New Orleans recently too. I saw some shit out there.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:A homeless woman laying on the ground getting arrested literally stopped mid-arrest.
Speaker 1:She said to me you look fucking stupid. You're getting arrested, bitch. Yeah, I saw someone trying like jump in front of a bus and the bus stopped and he just like kept doing it. It's an interesting place. It's very dark, but it's also very beautiful. It's very it is really beautiful. Like everyone's nice down there, and then it was hurricane season when I went, though. Oh, did you get good weather. The hurricane season was over. Yeah Well, in New.
Speaker 2:Orleans. It was back in, like May.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 2:It was bad.
Speaker 1:It was in the low 80s. Yeah, it was a fun time. I'm jealous. All right, let's go. Let's do some other would-you-rathers.
Speaker 2:I got to save mine because it's good. Well, it's not good.
Speaker 1:It's a conversation starter, though.
Speaker 2:for sure Would you rather constantly feel like you're about to sneeze, but never do or have an itch that you can never scratch, oh my God. Well, you know how sneezing feels like a little bit of an orgasm it's like it comes out and everything is better after you sneeze. It's almost better than an orgasm.
Speaker 1:No, it's not. I don't know if a woman, maybe men, can someone comment if that's true or not?
Speaker 2:I've actually always wondered that If male and female orgasms feel the same.
Speaker 1:I think women have more receptors. So I think technically it's better for women, which would make sense, because it's probably harder to achieve. It's so hard, like the way of the universe probably made it. So it's better because it's hard to achieve. Yeah, so it might be better. I don't, obviously, I I don't know, but I think I saw something where, like the like the different, like the receptors are different and there's like more nerve endings.
Speaker 2:So, like technically it feels better well, yeah, like the popular majority of the population is circumcised at this point. I believe so, like we, naturally, women have more nerve endings because we didn't.
Speaker 1:Everyone thought I was crazy for not circumcising my son. I'm like, I'm not.
Speaker 2:Oh you didn't.
Speaker 1:No, I'm like I'm not cutting his dick. 20,000 nerve endings get Just severed, just get cut off. For no, just just get cut off for no, just for optics, really no. And like they were like, well, it can. Um, it's better if he may get like penile cancer. So I looked it up one percent, one percent better. If you're circumcised, the like chances of getting penile cancer. And and they say it can, if you're circumcised it can help prevent stds. I'm like if you fuck someone with chlamydia circumcised, if you're circumcised it can help prevent STDs. I'm like if you fuck someone with chlamydia circumcised or not, you're getting chlamydia.
Speaker 1:I just couldn't bring myself. Yeah, I just couldn't do it. And it's such like Dallas' comment. I can't see it on here.
Speaker 2:Dallas' comment. I want you to read it.
Speaker 1:Oh, jacobob, bust a nut dallas yeah, but um, I think I'd rather, I think I'd rather have a constant itch yeah, not finishing a sneeze would be it's the. It's the most annoying thing ever. Like it needs to come. It's just. I do it to my girlfriend all the time she's about to sneeze and before she sneezes I'll say bless you. I do that to adam and it stops and it makes her lose it and she looks at oh yeah.
Speaker 1:Well, I'm just trying to be courteous, but I'm I'm trying to be better. I don't want to. You know that's fucked up.
Speaker 2:Yeah let's read dallas's, would you rather?
Speaker 1:okay. Would you rather have one crooked eye or always have dirt under your nails? Damn that's so bad I'm going dirt, I'm going dirt, hell no.
Speaker 2:Like I will tell people it's a genetic condition. Yeah, I don't want a fucked up eye.
Speaker 1:I definitely, you know, I've like as a personal trainer, I I've like trained some people that have had a lazy eye and like it's a genetic thing, like I get it and like stuff happens. It's just becomes like difficult, like you don't know where to look and like you feel like you're like disrespecting them and stuff like that. So, yeah, I'll take the dirty nails, you know.
Speaker 2:I'm taking dirt under my nails, Dallas.
Speaker 1:I probably already have dirty nails, you know.
Speaker 2:So we have non-visible dirt under our nails yeah, no one can see it all right. Oh, do you have one for me? I do okay, but it's a it's a big one, what do you mean? It's like it's long it's a no, it's deep okay I have this in my notes.
Speaker 2:I started writing it at 9 53 in the morning. Would you rather have unlimited amounts of money, resources and women? This is also in a perfect world, hypothetical, hypothetical, okay, obviously. Unlimited amounts of money, resources and women, not need for anything. You have everything you want. Unlimited amounts of sex accessible to you, different women. You are a straight fucking baller okay, but you never feel true love and you're pretty lonely and you just use the women for sexual gratification and validation. Or have one really amazing, loving, caring partner, a healthy relationship. All of your emotional needs are met. You're really content, but you're absolutely dirt poor. You can't make ends meet. You're struggling. It's like wolf of wall street in the beginning of the movie yeah like he has a.
Speaker 2:He has a great woman. They're not doing well, but like they have a healthy relationship. They're happy, they love each other. She's like his biggest cheerleader, but they have nothing there.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:He started his first business in a garage, but he inevitably picks the lavish life.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:So I'm curious.
Speaker 1:I think, I think love and time are the one true currency. So I would definitely take the love and and to be dirt poor because really, yeah, at the end of your, at the end of your life, that's like two of the things that you're gonna wish for. You're gonna wish that if someone was next to you in the hospital bed that loves you well, not like in the bed with you but you know they're not like like the notebook when they die together.
Speaker 1:Yeah like you're gonna wish that, like you had more time and you're gonna wish that if someone in the room loves you. You choose time over money oh yeah, I would choose rather die with someone with nothing than die alone with absolutely everything yeah for sure.
Speaker 1:Yeah, because like that's not I. It's enticing like that lavish life and like having all that and that's the ultimate goal. But if it came down to a choice like to have either or I yeah I would take, yeah I wouldn't, because at the end it's just like at the end of your life you're gonna like have this realization that no one's there let me ask you this do you think that money can buy happiness to a degree?
Speaker 1:yes, for sure. I agree with that. Yeah, because money can buy experience and experience brings happiness, like like there are like a lot of people that are nomadic and they want to travel the world. And unless you want to hitchhike these days with the only way to get there. A bunch of crazy people, yeah like only way to get like you need money to have experience now?
Speaker 1:do I think that people can be happy without it? Yeah, but I also feel like happiness is like a subjective, it's like a radio station too right like sadness, happiness, joy, like these are things that twist it to your special balance to it and you can like turn on a bit, like it's not like to seek happiness. It's, it's not. It's not tangible because, like it's not going to last forever, you're going to feel I struggled with this at some point.
Speaker 2:I struggled with this because I've been like first of all, we've talked about our upbringings and how, yeah, we didn't have shit, like my family wasn't really that happy, like my parents weren't happy. We and I see other couples growing up, other parents who had a lot of money and resources and they seemed way happier so it's like does, because I I think it gives you base security like it does.
Speaker 1:I watched this interview when I was working for this doctor. He showed me this interview of this guy. I don't know if it was like switzerland or like finland, but it was a. It was a country where basically you can't get rich but you have all of your necessities met, so you pay a shit ton of taxes, right? And he asked the guy he's like how does that feel that you'll never kind of be at the echelon of success and how does that go into you like picking your job? And he was like I'm always gonna have food, I'm always gonna have water, I'm always gonna have a roof over my head. So, knowing that I have all that, now I can pick whichever job I want and be happy so every job is pretty much yeah, you're capped like you're capped somewhere, like to a capacity and I'm sure depends on what you're doingpped somewhere like to a capacity, and I'm
Speaker 1:sure it depends on what you're doing. Yeah, there's like pay gaps but, like, no matter what you do, you're always going to have your basic needs met, which you and money gives you that right. So it's like if you grow up in a household where, like you know, there's always going to be food, there's always going to be a meal, you're always was going to have like decent clothes, there's this sense of um, like security in that that, like, a lot of us probably didn't have growing up, you know. So, yeah, money can definitely give that and like and, and we live in a world where we're like, we're like one argument away from our boss, from being on the side of the street with a cup. I know, you know. So it's like, in a world like that, it's almost, it's almost kind of like to have that like safety and consistency is like a lot of people need that because, like, no one wants to be poor and broke and like asking people like for the shit, everyone wants to to do it on their own but what's preventing that work?
Speaker 2:ethic drive yeah, I don't know fear yeah, probably a lot but yeah, I struggled with this, would you rather because I was like how happy could I really be in a relationship if we had fucking nothing?
Speaker 1:yeah, yeah, and I'm I am not materialistic.
Speaker 2:I don't own a single like brand name item yeah legitimately don't and I'm but like I'm thinking about what I would need and like I need dinners, I need dates, I need like, and I know we can get creative with what we have.
Speaker 1:But I'm just like I guess you, I guess, if you never had it, you don't know yeah, I think you feel like that now because you have access to it, but if I didn't, it would just be oh, we had, yeah, dinner at home with a candle, yeah then like that would be like special.
Speaker 2:Exactly that's where my special threshold is. Well, let's just reframe the question and say knowing what we know, then that would be more difficult knowing what we know, I don't think I could be happy being in a relationship where we have nothing from going from what I have to that.
Speaker 1:It would be difficult. But I also as lavish as I want my life to be. I'm very simplistic and I could see myself like living with my girl anywhere in the world, like living very simplistically, not poor, what's lavish to you, though, because lavish is subjective, like lavish to you could be vacations, oh yeah. Now, lavish to me is what like multiple.
Speaker 2:Out of the country.
Speaker 1:Yeah, now, lavish to me is probably like a bit more ridiculous just because of like where, like I want to go, and to put like oh, like I want to drive this car like and have this Like I want geographical freedom. You want to be able to go wherever I want. Like, if the bells ring and they're like, okay, nuclear warfare is happening, I'm like, okay, I'm going to take off. You want the freedom to do that. Yeah, like charter the jet.
Speaker 2:How does your partner feel about that, bring the family.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, come on. Like my boyfriend wants to buy a jet Cool, you know. But also I can see myself living very simplistically as well. Like I would love to buy an RV and park it at different campsites around the US. Like I've traveled across country three or four times, just one side to one side, and the country is so beautiful and like the west coast especially is gorgeous and I would love to just could you see yourself living on the west coast?
Speaker 1:yeah it, if I could snap my fingers right now and be there I would like. The end goal is definitely the west coast what's the matter?
Speaker 2:you don't love warwick yeah, right don't tell people where we live no, yeah, now west coast.
Speaker 1:I've been the west coast for about a year and it was like I was taking my exit oh yeah, you were in oregon yeah, get in my apartment and there's just like a gorgeous mountain in the background and you drive a little bit and you're like waterfall and it's you just, you just can't put words to the beauty.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's so beautiful well, that was my, would you rather so to the beauty. Yeah, it's so beautiful. Well, that was my, would you rather? Yeah, that was deep. It's a deep one and honestly, I don't even know if I have a full-blown answer for it. I honestly don't. I think that I'd have to go rich and lonely. I'm serious.
Speaker 2:Yeah, at least I could get temporary feelings, you know, like if I really truly only had the option to have like like going to your head to side right now like, okay, I'm gonna have the money and I'm just gonna have some sex with some strangers and like have boyfriends and like just be having my fun and having my money and I'll just die like that yeah but like if you asked a woman who was born in the 50s, you think she'd say that yeah, no, that'd be a lot different these women have lived and they've had their families and they're like oh, I wish I did this and I wish I did that yeah don't you have another?
Speaker 2:would you rather? Um, and yes, jake, time is the ultimate currency. My friend jake is in the chat again and he has children, so he understands.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, like you can't.
Speaker 2:Time is the only thing you have when you have kids.
Speaker 1:I wouldn't know anything about that, but oh, this one's good, and then we'll get into like some more stuff after. Would you rather accidentally send a nude? No, no, no, Not this one. Fuck that one.
Speaker 1:What no, not this one. Fuck that one. What that one started off good, okay, so okay, I'll finish that one. Would you rather accidentally send a nude to your boss or to your mom? I'm taking mom all day, mom easily, because I could just like chalk that up to mama. Sorry, you caught me slipping, my bad, you know like my mom would be like what the fuck?
Speaker 1:yeah, I could get over that. Sorry, mom, if you're watching this. Um, would you rather be reincarnated as a fly or just cease to exist when you die, like no heaven, no hell, it's just blackness but I can see the blackness no, you're just no. You can't see nothing.
Speaker 2:You just cease to exist or you come back as a fly is there any nuance to this, because flies usually only live a couple days to a week max?
Speaker 1:a fly that lives 30 years. I'll be a fly right, I'm flying.
Speaker 2:I'm sucking on piles of shit. I'm flying. I'm sticking my straw face in piles of shit. I'm flying.
Speaker 1:Flying high. You ever see the image of a fly under a microscope. How ugly those fuckers are, oh my you ever see that episode of.
Speaker 2:Spongebob with the butterfly, with the net no.
Speaker 1:The jellyfish, yeah, yeah, yeah. Butterfly, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2:It's scary. They keep zooming in on his face and it's really scary.
Speaker 1:What's the best? Spongebob episode.
Speaker 2:Oh my God, that's a tough question, just.
Speaker 1:One Bite. No, bubble Bowl is the best one. Bubble Bowl, yeah, when they like, sing in front of the crowd.
Speaker 2:I thought that was the movie.
Speaker 1:No, and SpongeBob's, like the river takes on. You don't know that one.
Speaker 2:Oh, we got to put it on the TV. What Just One Bite is the best episode.
Speaker 1:The SpongeBob Bubble Bowl.
Speaker 2:Oh, it's like the Super Bowl. Yeah, I thought that was. Was it just like?
Speaker 1:an extended episode. No, it was like Squidward's cousin. I don't know his name. Squilliam, squilliam, yeah, he was into music and stuff like that. Yeah, they had an orchestra yes, yes, and they perform. And yeah, spongebob just takes the cake. Good for him.
Speaker 2:Takes the cake.
Speaker 1:Yeah, he just like he gets the microphone and he just cooks.
Speaker 2:What's the song that they do, adam, if you're watching this, what's the song that they do in the Bubble Bowl? They definitely do like recreate like a queen song.
Speaker 1:It's the thrill of the song, that one, the last one.
Speaker 2:Yes, yes, it's like a song that they changed the lyrics to.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, I don't know the actual song, but yeah, I got some questions that came through, let's hear them. If you want to hit these, all right, we'll do the simple one first. I don't know if it's going to be simple for you, it is for me, nothing is simple. What's one? Okay, no, not one. What is your biggest fear?
Speaker 2:Dying Dang. That was quick Dead ass, instant dying, all right.
Speaker 1:So let's give it nuance. You can't say dying, it's going to be in like your everyday life, like when things come up.
Speaker 2:Sweet Victory is the name of the song, by the way.
Speaker 1:Oh, yes, yes, Good for him.
Speaker 2:Thank you Adam. Okay, if it's not dying, then it's.
Speaker 1:I'm going to push this up. I think it's giving us some interference.
Speaker 2:Okay, there we go. Oh yeah, it went away.
Speaker 1:I was right If it's not dying, then it's failing. Oh, yours are like deep Fuck, not like lightning or being burned Heights.
Speaker 2:No Heights. Yeah, I don't fuck with heights, that's too tough. Yeah, like overall failure. Interesting, overall failure. Interesting like doing nothing, like like we've talked about, like, yeah, doing nothing with your life and then dying with no legacy I don't, and I don't mean children like I mean like this person, like when you want, suppose you die and your best friend or your brother or your mom is going to do a eulogy yeah other than she was, and I guess the most important things is that you're a good person.
Speaker 2:But what are you going to say that? What are they going to say about me? Yeah like my biggest fear is just failure and just having really no, no report card of my life can I ask you a question?
Speaker 1:yeah, what's legacy without children?
Speaker 2:I mean for me, if I don't have children. It's what I've done in my life, what I've achieved, like my personal accomplishments, my yeah, anything I've built in my life.
Speaker 1:You know business, but the only people that are going to idolize that truly are children, because, like your family members and like people around you, like they might be a fan, but like true, unconditional idolization of like what you've done maybe will come from children, children are a gamble yeah, you could have a little asshole, for sure you could be the best fucking parent and your kid could just still hate you.
Speaker 1:That's what I I get feared like about. Like adoption, like you want to like like I've thought about it. You know trauma and it's like what if I like adopt someone like who had two like really fucked up parents? And then it's like nature versus nurture right.
Speaker 1:It's like savannah said not true, your kids could hate, you see yeah, you know see, yeah yeah, it's, it's a gamble I guess I'm speaking like from a place of like my you have kids and you know yeah, I know my daughter thinks I'm like this shit and if I was to have a child, that would be ideal. Yeah.
Speaker 2:Of course, that's what I would want.
Speaker 1:But I also think like that's it's not guaranteed, yeah, but like a lot of that is contingent on mom. No, because I guess you could be a good parent and your kids could still just fucking hate you too, right? Like you see kids that have everything and they just kind of go in the opposite way.
Speaker 2:So why would Sorry? I saw a comment that said I can't believe you didn't remember the bubble bowl episode right.
Speaker 1:How the fuck could you not?
Speaker 2:that's yeah I think for me personally, there's a lot more to be left behind in life than children. The legacy of children yeah, I guess I'm.
Speaker 1:I'm speaking of it like when I die. I have like things in order, like for my children to inherit all the work I've done. So it's kind of like it's being like passed down and for me like that's like that's fulfilling.
Speaker 2:But you know that makes sense. My experience with a dad is not having a ton of that. Like I didn't idolize my dad, he didn't really pave anything any ways for me. He didn't leave anything behind for me like as far as like morals, values, money, businesses. So I kind of other than having a good mom, I kind of had to like figure that all out on my own, yeah, on your own which can do.
Speaker 2:I have him to thank. You know he passed. He passed away. Can I look? Can I think about him and be like you know what I could thank him?
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:For not doing anything and not doing a lot.
Speaker 1:Yeah, Trauma builds character.
Speaker 2:Exactly I ended up I ended up the way that I am due to his lack of involvement. Really Right, so one way, and I know I'm not mad at him.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but the universe fills gaps, though, and, like I was, I was I was just talking to my life coach about this, how like I was going through, so, like, uh, we were talking about how like you like, how you feel when you get up in the morning and like, and when you go to bed, and I told him, interestingly, I've dealt with anxiety for a very long time and every time I would go to bed at night because of my anxiety, I would feel like I wouldn't wake up the next day, and this was like years ago. Every time I would wake up after that anxiety, I it would feel like a celebration and and that stuck with me later in life. So every time I wake up these days even though I don't struggle with that same anxiety, it feels like new year's day to me. Every time I wake up, I'm just ready to go.
Speaker 2:That's amazing.
Speaker 1:I'm in a good mood, I'm happy, so it's like that trauma.
Speaker 2:Tina's here.
Speaker 1:Oh is she. Oh, tina's fresh off a shoot. She's fresh off a photo shoot. But I'll say my biggest fear, my biggest fear on my everyday life from interacting with the world, is getting stuck in an elevator while I'm hungry.
Speaker 2:Or have to shit.
Speaker 1:Or diarrhea. I literally, if I'm, if I had been fasting and I have I'll I'll take the stairs. If I'm fresh off breakfast, I'll take the elevator just in case, nothing seems worse than me than being stuck in there, being like when the fuck can I eat? So yeah, that's my biggest fear, that.
Speaker 2:And lightning, lightning is uh very lightning yeah, lightning just I'm afraid of the dark. Like for, just like a regular. Like, okay, like I'm afraid of ghosts, ghosts, and Like for just like a regular like, okay, like I'm afraid of ghosts. No, I like Ghosts and the dark.
Speaker 1:Yeah, ghosts are a real thing, though Ghosts will get you.
Speaker 2:I'm like if my dad came as a ghost, like came back and Would he fuck with me? Sometimes I'm like Would he fuck with me? We had this one little tiny I wouldn't call it tiny, but we had a little passed away. All five of us I'm one of five kids, all five of us were in his house cleaning out his things. We were there for hours. This was a few days after he died. We were there for hours. At the end of the day, all five of us were like standing together. My siblings were smoking a joint and literally every single light in his house blew out stop it every single light.
Speaker 2:You ever watch supernatural you ever watch supernatural? No, oh, because if you did, then would I believe in it because I was like, I'll tell you what that was about, you know every light blew out and I'm like do I believe in this shit? I want to go to a medium. I've really been thinking about it. How do you feel about mediums?
Speaker 1:I've.
Speaker 2:I believe that uh people can perceive and talk to the other side for sure tina just wrote in and said that she has ghosts, are real and she's seen jesus and she's not even religious. Damn tina, did you have a near-death experience? Because I've heard of people seeing jesus having near-death experiences are we still live on facebook?
Speaker 1:are we asked to pass? Okay, I don't know.
Speaker 2:You like to check later?
Speaker 1:yeah, it's on here he said itchy, oh yeah that was 10, would you rathers ago?
Speaker 2:let's go. Oh, tina just confirmed that she did have a near-death experience and that is when she saw jesus. See that's deep, I've. Tina just confirmed that she did have a near-death experience and that is when she saw Jesus See. I've heard this, Tina, that this happens when you are close to death, which is comforting to hear.
Speaker 1:All right, we got one, two, like four more questions. I don't know if I want to. These are kind of deep. That's what we do. Should we do your friends one?
Speaker 2:so we should do my. Have a conniption, we should do my friends question yeah, we forgot it last time, so yeah now.
Speaker 1:That was my apologies. I had a lot of emails to go through, so we'll um. Are you ready for it?
Speaker 2:I going to send him a quick video.
Speaker 1:Okay, I'll just sit here.
Speaker 2:I'm going to address your question in the messages that you sent to Howlife how.
Speaker 1:I tried to get my tongue in there twice. It didn't work out.
Speaker 2:You just keep missing it.
Speaker 1:All right, read the question. Oh, the question. Okay, the question is what is love? And if you don't know, how can you love yourself or someone else?
Speaker 2:Have you ever heard RuPaul's saying?
Speaker 1:No.
Speaker 2:Do you know who RuPaul is?
Speaker 1:No.
Speaker 2:He's like the most famous drag queen in the world. He says honey, if you don't love yourself, how the hell is someone else going to love you?
Speaker 1:Okay, but that would be the flip side of it. This is, if you don't know what love is, how can you love yourself or someone else? I think you can not love yourself and easily love someone else. It's way easier, way easier, like you can have. Literally, I could feel like I want to. I don't want to say no dark shit, but, yeah, I could have some very ill feelings toward myself and still hold all the love in the world for my family and the people around me, like in my relationship.
Speaker 2:So I— have you ever heard that saying like oh, you can't be in a relationship until you're fully healed?
Speaker 1:Yeah, I don't think— I don't agree with that. I don't think any of us can ever be fully healed. To be honest with you, this is such a trauma-packed experience for us all. You know, and like, we all have baggage, we all have shit that we're like dealing through and then like not to like, not to maggot. If you're baggage-free and you meet someone else that like baggage-free, that doesn't mean that you're compatible. Now and now you have to deal with the baggage that's being created from your relationship, because not?
Speaker 2:everyone's 100 compatible, you know so it's like that's and like also turmoil. Once again, everything is subjective. Baggage is subjective yep like you could have kids and someone could be like. I think that's great, because I don't want kids of my own and I love kids and that's great true to another person oh, you have kids. I don't want kids. That's baggage to me yeah no, you're right, right, so like no, baggage is very subjective to from person to person yeah, getting two people to be fully cohesive in a relationship is nearly impossible.
Speaker 1:It's a very difficult thing, you know like there's a lot of give and take, there's a lot of uh biting the tongue, there's a lot of, but I think that's where the growth happens, right.
Speaker 2:Oh, yeah, for sure that's where the growth is. When you're in a relationship with somebody, there's naturally inevitably going to be differences, and that is where you either crumble or grow together or apart.
Speaker 2:Right, yeah, you can grow as a person in a relationship and leave the relationship you know, oh yeah, for sure you can recognize where your differences are, where it doesn't work and that it doesn't work for you and exit, and that's still growth yeah which I need people to understand that are our age, because I find a lot of people that are settling into long-term relationships, even with huge fucking red flags and things that, straight up, do not align with them because they're because of time and they think that's that steps backwards. That's taking steps backwards if I leave. No, it's not. That's you growing as a person and being even more deeply rooted in what you know and want for your life.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's true.
Speaker 2:People who are our age completely think that leaving a relationship after a certain amount of time, or whatever it is, is taking steps back.
Speaker 1:You know, coming from like, I started personal training after high school. I did it for like almost a decade and I would, for some reason reason, attract these middle-aged women. I don't know why, but I know why. It was all just like 40s, 50s and like and like 60 year olds and it did you ever like entertain it? What them?
Speaker 2:like romantically, like dating or no, no, um.
Speaker 1:But what like scared the shit out of me was seeing people that like, were that age, talk about their, like, their relationship. They'd be like I'm sleeping on the couch.
Speaker 2:He's been on the couch, how long they've been together we haven't had sex in a year.
Speaker 1:We've been together for for like 15, 20 years and I'm like damn I. And it was almost like like why, what the fuck? Why this will never be my life, ever like I. I need an intimate relationship.
Speaker 2:I can't have something where we're just like roommates or like, but you do, partners, you do accept that being in a relationship with someone for 15 plus years, you do accept that there's going to be times in a person's life. For instance, if you're let's just say you're with somebody for 20 years and you guys are, you're starting to date now you're 30, so your future wife, girlfriend, partner, whatever is going to go through menopause yeah like. Do you accept?
Speaker 2:yeah can you live with the fact that you might go a long time without having sex during that period?
Speaker 1:I. I will say that the best advice that I ever get came from two people. One was from swingers. They were the happiest people ever, and what they said to me too was they said I mean, do I believe in swinging? I just think that's like.
Speaker 2:you don't want to just see some man, just you don't have to watch Just mount in your wife's sweat Go in the other room and fuck his wife, and then you have to come go in.
Speaker 1:your wife sweat, go in the other room and he's just his wife, and then you have to come. Yeah, no, that I don't.
Speaker 2:I don't know why does it have to be like that? Why can't he make sweet, sweet love to her? Yeah?
Speaker 1:no, I yeah, but missionary, yeah, maybe the first time and then like next time he gets more comfortable and he's just your wife what if it's a one-time thing and you guys agree to only hook up with people once and that's it and you move on?
Speaker 2:You do like once a year swings, you meet new people every time.
Speaker 1:I would need to not even hear about what's going on.
Speaker 2:Really.
Speaker 1:Yeah, like I would need to be in like separate.
Speaker 2:I would be like. So how was it Like? Did she stink? I would want to know, like all the details. Was she hairy?
Speaker 1:I don't, it's it's. It's different for men. We're, we're a lot more territorial. I get it. I do not want to hear that this dude just took you to Penetration Island. We do not want to hear that.
Speaker 2:I get it, I don't really want to.
Speaker 1:If you come in and you're like he's not as big as you, that shit suck. Bet that shit suck, I'll put a. Had a fucking hammer on him and he just took you to pound town?
Speaker 1:yeah, you don't want to know, yeah hell, no, all right, well, but anyways their advice besides the swinging was, the key to staying in a happy relationship is to not fall out of love at the same time. Where, like after 20 years, you like go through these phases, everyone changes of. You know, am I with the right person? And if you're both feeling that at the same time, you're going to break up. So the other person just kind of has to deal with the fact that someone's going through menopause, their emotions are changing. It's just not regulating properly. They're like why the fuck am I with this person? So that was good advice. The other advice that I got was from this couple that had separate bedrooms.
Speaker 2:I've heard this and I kind of like it.
Speaker 1:And they just have conjugal visits. And it's tough too, because, like when you get into a relationship, everything like becomes about us.
Speaker 2:Right, there's no more individuality. How can?
Speaker 1:we decorate this kitchen and for like a lot of times the guy is just like he wants.
Speaker 2:He has no say.
Speaker 1:He wants a certain poster and said why the fuck would we put that poster up?
Speaker 2:You know, so, anyways, I think that, like, obviously, in the beginning of a relationship, first couple of years, sharing a bed is special, it's sacred. But yeah, years and years and years in you're within, you know you're getting older, your husband snores like a fucking bear, your wife has, like, like you know, incontinent asshole and she has gas like one has acid reflux. One needs a c-pap machine, like maybe it's to the point where, like for your own health, for your own health and like sleep, get separate bedrooms and then, yeah, come in decorate the way you want to, and have your own space.
Speaker 1:You have some conjugal visits and and leave you know, keep it moving and then also distance makes the heart grow fonder. Yeah, it does you know, it does tell me you don't like take time away from your girlfriend. You're like I miss her yeah, like if I'm out, like if I'm working all day, when I go home, like it's much different if I had been home all day, exactly you know, yeah, it's a lot different I think the separate bedroom thing is honestly something I might implement in the future.
Speaker 2:Adam, if you're listening, maybe she'll limp to make you feel bad and act right I'm not even in the what do we got? They're talking about having open relationships and having people slam into your girl and they're saying if she's limping, rudy said, my heart will hurt if she walks back in with a limp.
Speaker 1:oh oh, my Wait, no. Who said that Rudy. Oh my God, rudy, like you feel me Like. There's just no way that I could live in a world where my girl just got aired the fuck out in the other room and she comes back sweating and I'm like, and I had just gone like a minute and a half you know, because it's crazy. No, I'm good with all that crazy.
Speaker 2:Yeah, now I'm, I'm good with all. That for sure is on team she needs cuddles.
Speaker 1:She don't care about the c-pap all in her ear. Come on, sav. We know that's not true. You're a fucking liar. You know like after the first night of that or that sleep app you're gonna be like yeah, yeah, now you better turn that shit, the fuck off why are you always lying? What is okay. The original question was what is love, and if you don't know, how can you love yourself or someone else? Um, I think we.
Speaker 2:I don't know you know, is love a feeling to you? I don't. I don't think love is a feeling. I think it's like a guttural, visceral, like yeah, this person means so much to me that I would never do anything to hurt them or squander what we have.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Even if it's difficult, Like temptation is all around us. Being able to fight your temptations to be with someone, I think that's a start right.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:That's a start of love, just knowing that the way you care about somebody isn't worth any temporary satisfaction. I think there just gets to a point in caring about somebody where you wouldn't dream of fucking it up yeah and I think that's very true.
Speaker 2:I think that is love well, that's I feel like that's unconditional love no matter how good something may seem, your person is better than that and you don't need to saying the grass is always greener yeah as I've gotten older, that that and like I'm not saying that I've been like presented with multiple opportunities, but like I'm just saying like any time in life where I have something really good going on, there's been times in the past when I was younger, where I'd be like I don't know if I can kiss this guy and it means nothing, even though I have a boyfriend like the grass. That would mean something to someone if they had the opportunity of knowing For sure. The grass is not always greener and you always regret it 1,000%. Now that I'm older, I'm like if I really wanted to do something, I think I would just end the relationship, but that would oh, yeah, you would have, yeah, but it would have to be worth it.
Speaker 2:What am I breaking up with someone for?
Speaker 1:Yeah. I'm going to fuck someone and then it's not gonna be good, and then if you already have something good, it's like you just ruined it.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and you're starting from scratch yeah, I'm.
Speaker 1:I'm at the point where I'm not even in the perceptive realm that I could perceive me getting out of my relationship, if that makes any sense wait, say that again I'm not even in the perceptive realm of me getting out of my relationship, whereas I couldn't even perceive something being better to me because it's not even on my radar.
Speaker 2:It's not even an option.
Speaker 1:Like to think that you don't have options. I'm not. I wouldn't know if I did. I'm not even in the market to be like okay, like what's that and what's that and what's that, you don't have options. I don't. It's just not even a thing to me. I don't, you know.
Speaker 2:And like you know, and like that's a good place to be if you're content there, like there's no reason to dwell on what could be. Yeah, because that is what fucks up a relationship.
Speaker 1:Oh my god yeah, and but like that's like the, the like day and age that we live in, everything's so like instantaneous you can go online and you meet someone and, yeah, you can have sex. Yeah well for a woman it's.
Speaker 2:It's a lot harder for a man honestly I say this with love to all women, but I I think it's just lot harder for a man. Honestly, I say this with love to all women, but I think it's just as easy for men. You just have to aim lower.
Speaker 1:Yep.
Speaker 2:Honestly.
Speaker 1:No, you're right. Yeah, no, you're right, you just can't get the 10.
Speaker 2:This is in man words. You can't get the 10.
Speaker 1:You may not be able to sleep with a 10 day of on a dating app but if you aim lower and lower your standards, whatever those may be, you can have sex day of yep for sure. Yeah, for sure. No, that was that was nicely put. So, uh, to answer your question, we don't really know what love is.
Speaker 2:Uh, we're trying our best to figure it out.
Speaker 1:It's more than a feeling though yeah, everything like in this day and age gets romanticized like every movie, every cartoon, just kind of like uh paints his picture. I think everyone gets kind of like misconstrued of what it actually is, because if we had any idea then the divorce rate wouldn't be so high and everything wouldn't be so fucked up. So yeah, we don't really know what love is do you watch? Love is blind I don't watch any kind of tv do you know what love is?
Speaker 1:blind is I'm assuming um people. I going to say people are literally blind.
Speaker 2:No, I'm going to just give a. Is this magnetic? It is.
Speaker 1:Is it?
Speaker 2:So it's a dating show.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 2:And we're just doing this.
Speaker 1:Of blind people. Oh, oh, yeah, well, yeah, kind of we're in different rooms. Oh.
Speaker 2:And for 10 days we talk through a wall. Can you fall in love with someone like that?
Speaker 1:Any man that's watching this is like he's trying to see if he can see the outline of her calf. He's trying to see if her hair is long enough and the minute that that thing comes down.
Speaker 2:for a woman. That's the answer.
Speaker 1:It might be different. I don't know. I know for a man the minute it comes down, there is going to be a point added or deduction system.
Speaker 2:So they're in separate rooms for 10 days and they meet, and the thing is they have to get engaged.
Speaker 1:If my mom is still watching, I know she watches this, Holy shit. She just commented I love. Love is Blind See.
Speaker 2:Yes, they have to fall in love, find a partner, and there's like 20 people. People start like kind of not finding people, getting eliminated, and then finally there's a few couples left and then they meet in person and every time, without fail, something changes.
Speaker 1:There's a shift when they see the person, obviously.
Speaker 2:Every time.
Speaker 1:That's what like pulls you in to begin with.
Speaker 2:Every fucking time? Obviously Every time.
Speaker 1:That's what like pulls you in to begin with Every fucking time, like you don't see someone out at a bar and be like I consent, she has a nice personality, let me go talk to her. That's just not how it works. No, you want to go feel her aura.
Speaker 2:You want to go see her skin, her teeth. You want to smell her breath Like I'm serious.
Speaker 1:Damn you be getting in there.
Speaker 2:You know how many times I've gone on dates with guys and I'm across the table like like this, trying to smell their breath, because that's how fucking bad it can be. I've kissed guys and I'm like, oh wow, this was a great date. But then the moment I kissed you, it was completely over for me, dried up, desert I'll start calling you sahara, all right, so anyways, anyways.
Speaker 1:Yeah, we try to answer that love is love is absolutely a visceral intentional oh sorry feeling.
Speaker 2:It's not just a feeling, though, and what was the? What was the second half of the question? If you don't know what it is, how can you love yourself? Yeah, well, like we said, yeah, most of us, anyways.
Speaker 2:Most of us struggle every day in the mirror, and that's where I want you to feel more connected, because who the fuck looks in the mirror every single day, every moment of every day and says I love myself, I love the way I look, I love everything about me? Nobody, nobody. We all pick things out. No one's skinny enough enough, no one's pretty enough. No one fucking has big enough muscles. Your dick's too small, whatever it may be so I've said patrick does do you do that only on certain days.
Speaker 1:Some days I wake up, I'm just, I'm just ready in the morning, you know.
Speaker 2:I get it but we don't love ourselves fully, every single day.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2:You can't have comments up, you're too distracted.
Speaker 1:I didn't love myself. The other night. After I went to see you at that show, I woke up feeling like dog shit.
Speaker 2:How many drinks did you have?
Speaker 1:Did you see me going from table to table?
Speaker 2:Yeah, I mean, that's the point of it. Yeah, I was like you bought a ticket yeah, no, I got the vip ticket too.
Speaker 1:I I got a little swag slides though.
Speaker 2:Oh my god, they were so good yeah so, for anyone who doesn't know, I'm in a band and I paid. I played this gig the other night and it's at a crown plaza, it's at a hotel, it's big convention and they have restaurants from our area. Come and do tastings of their menu, not just their food, but their alcohol.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:And Patrick indulged himself.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, there was probably like 25 tables of booze and I tried alcohol from each and every one.
Speaker 2:Like they had margaritas Mudslides.
Speaker 1:The mudslides I had. Well, I don't remember what I had towards the end, but, um, yeah, I tried everything. Like that was like a smorgasbord. Like you get drunk and like you go home and you just make like whatever's in your fridge. That was like that was that night like the real life thing, like there was tables that had a bunch of I mean, I don't eat like any kind of bread like which sucks. So I was just kind of like eating certain things.
Speaker 2:You didn't get the thanksgiving sandwich that they had there. No, I didn't.
Speaker 1:I got like the buffalo chicken dip and I didn't have the bread, I just had the dip. Yeah, I sold like a cupcake stand and I was. I got one of those cupcakes, I didn't. Yeah, the guy called me over. He's like I see you looking you're like I'm keto baby, yeah, I didn't eat it.
Speaker 1:no, I'm not keto, I'm, I'm more like paleo, I think. But um, yeah, I just can't eat anything like that. So anyways, but yeah, it was a fun time, but I was walking around with like four drinks at one time I saw you. It was just, it was like the best thing ever.
Speaker 2:Do you get post drinking? What's? What is it Anxiety?
Speaker 1:Yeah, for sure.
Speaker 2:Do you get anxiety? Yeah, wow, yeah, I've experienced it a couple of times of just like why it's not a fun time.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's not a fun time.
Speaker 2:We're going to get espressos.
Speaker 1:I'm sad, so we're going to go get espressos. Come when you guys are done. Where, where, yeah, where. Tell us where and I'll flip a coin. She said XOXO. She said xoxo, maybe they're going to xo cafe. Is that, is that a real thing? Yeah, all right. Anyways, more questions, okay, oh yeah, this was a deep one. What similarity rewind similarities can two people connect on when one is on a religious path and one is on a broader spiritual path without a particular religion?
Speaker 1:So I think this is like someone's like, let's say, a hardcore Catholic, and the other person is.
Speaker 2:Jewish.
Speaker 1:No, no, no, no. They're just more spiritual. They don't believe in a God. Yeah, they're like. Well, that makes sense and that makes sense, but I'm not going to commit. Do you want to take a crack at this or want me to?
Speaker 2:I think we can both have our opinions. You go first.
Speaker 1:I think that if you're looking for something to connect on and like the similarities of that, I think belief in and of itself is something that just goes by the wayside. If you take someone who believes in something and you also take someone who's, let's say, an atheist, that's going to be a very difficult relationship. I think, even if you believe in different things, the concept of belief like the fact that you can believe in something there's such a value in that you can believe in something there's like there's such a value in that and I think that you can connect on just that that you guys are able to believe in something that is kind of higher than yourself. Because if you're with someone that really didn't believe in anything at all, it would it'd be kind of miserable, like like someone that doesn't believe in things or like a higher power.
Speaker 1:It's almost like like picture a bunch of six-year-olds right or like a higher power. It's almost like like picture a bunch of six-year-olds right and 20 of them are like walking around talking about oh my god, it's christmas time, I can't wait for santa to come. And then there's one kid out of that that knows that santa's not real and they're kind of sitting there, like which, again, it's the truth, but it kind of takes the magic out of it. So to be able to believe in it, and it's more than yourself. If two people can do that, I think that's a beautiful thing. Like not everyone is going to like have the same like religious or political view or just like view on life in general, but the fact that, like you do believe in something, I think just preliminary, you can connect on that.
Speaker 2:I think it would be great if we could coexist.
Speaker 1:Sorry, I'm sorry, I'm so sorry.
Speaker 2:It would be great if we could coexist, meaning you accept that I'm more spiritual and I'm feeling off. I don't need to pray, I want to do my tarot cards.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 2:This isn't me. I'm just giving examples.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's good.
Speaker 2:You want to go pray? I I support that. I want to flip my tarot cards and see what's going on in my day, or I want to play with my crystals and play with my crystals. I want to, you know, line up my crystals and you know what I mean.
Speaker 2:I don't see. I really hate the big division of people when it comes to political and religious views. I fucking hate it. I absolutely hate it. Do I think that certain religions are absolutely ridiculous and like culty? Yes, do I think that some spiritual practices are literally insane? Yes, that's why we just pick and choose who we're dating. Like, if you really are so far on one spectrum of something, just don't date that kind of person. If it's going to be a problem, a problem. Yeah. I'd love for like some unity though. Like if we could just be like you want to have crystals for your, like what you need, just like going to therapy for some people.
Speaker 1:Yes.
Speaker 2:You want to go to church, that's your therapy.
Speaker 1:church, that's your therapy, that's fine and if it goes against who you are, then like, why try to force it to work? But like, if, like, every time they're like doing something, you're like no, like that, like that completely, that goes against it, then like you can't force that, you know um have you ever been friends with any like jehovah's witnesses or anything?
Speaker 2:because I've had a few jehovah's witness friends and they honestly I don't believe in what they believe in, but they do have it figured out as far as they don't date outside of jehovah's witnesses interesting because it's it's probably not gonna.
Speaker 1:It's too fucking hard. Yeah, anyone that just like knocks on people's doors to believe in what they believe. It just goes door to door and just like if you're gonna just stick with your, they're just taking out that stick to hit you with it.
Speaker 2:You know every once in a while they're probably yeah because how would?
Speaker 1:because if you're showing up up at my door to hit me with your jesus stick, then there's just no way you're on your first date not doing that same exact thing.
Speaker 2:It's in you. It is like and those, these people that I knew were incredible people, but it was just in them. Yeah, even at work, at work, at work, I worked with them. They would talk to me about Jehovah, you know, like that's crossing. They probably signed something at one point in our, in their employment, where they weren't supposed to do that and they're fucking preaching to me.
Speaker 1:And they can't help themselves.
Speaker 2:They can't. So what I'm saying?
Speaker 2:is they've really figured it out by just dating within. But you know what? What I think is the the crack, the cracks in that plan. I was working with women who were 38 years old, who had never had sex, who had never been in relationships, who couldn't have boyfriends. They literally only had to date to marry, and then they got all the way up to the age of 38 and they're going to conventions trying to find husbands. And then they were just getting married to get married. Damn that, and I never like what kind of existence is that?
Speaker 2:what kind of existence is that to just to maintain? 38 years is a long time and did you know that once you're married as and this is not shooting on jehovah's witnesses, I'm just expressing why they probably stick with?
Speaker 1:their own sounds like you might get canceled. I'm not. I'm not getting canceled and they might come after you.
Speaker 2:They might come after you. Everybody knows. Anything that's door-to-door other than Girl Scout cookies is bullshit.
Speaker 1:Girl Scout cookies.
Speaker 2:No. Once you get married as a Jehovah's Witness, divorce is not allowed and if you divorce, you are kicked and shunned out of your kingdom hall and your family cannot speak to you. Your family, your parents, your siblings, they can't speak to you and the only way to get out of your marriage is to cheat. That is the only way, like in the jehovah's culture you have to cheat.
Speaker 1:I'd want to see the stats on that of how many actually cheat.
Speaker 2:I know somebody who literally had to have sex with someone else and go home and say I slept with somebody else. That was the only way she could get out of her marriage. Jeez, your husband could punch you in the face. Ye, husband, your husband, they could punch you in the thy could punch you in the face and you'd have to. You couldn't get divorced. That wasn't grounds for divorce.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's just you sleep with someone else, you're out, but you're also kicked out of your kingdom hall and you lose. Now this person's family doesn't speak to them.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's wild.
Speaker 2:I'm sorry. There's just certain things I can't get behind. That's so fucked up. You can't speak to your family. You can have an abusive husband.
Speaker 1:Yeah, people get raised in that and it just becomes the norm.
Speaker 2:She broke free, she broke Mormon. You ever see that movie, I mean that show Breaking Amish.
Speaker 1:Anything you say, I'm probably gonna be like nah.
Speaker 2:It's like so old.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 2:But it's basically like these girls are like 18.
Speaker 1:They're like I don't want to be Amish anymorenet, and they just go fucking haywire, clubbing, fucking and clubbing. Jeez, I love that for them. Yeah, they live in their best life, all right? Um, I had a. Would you rather come through? Let's hear it would you rather live in a world where everyone else is always happy but you feel miserable, or a world where everyone is miserable but you feel happy?
Speaker 2:as long as I'm okay inside then fuck, everyone fuck everyone else.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I feel like that's kind of how I operate. Anyways, I'm like you have to whatever got any funny ones in there um, let's see, I mean, I got some funny. Would you rathers?
Speaker 1:yeah, I want to hear those but no, I had, uh, one that came through. How can I maintain my diet and fitness goals? I keep falling off the wagon. Go ahead, um, um, how do I phrase this without being mean, I don't know? Um, I think a lot of people affiliate goals with emotionality, whereas when you wake up and you're like, do I feel like going to the gym, do I feel like doing this, if you just take the feel portion out of it, it, you'll be able to maintain your goals a lot better it's not an option yeah, like you, just can't.
Speaker 1:You. Like you, you can't let that little bitch voice in your brain win. Like, even if you get up early to go to the gym and that little bitch voice is like, come on, just stay in bed, talk back to the voice and be like look, we'll just go to the gym, we'll do one set. If we don't like it after one set we'll leave.
Speaker 1:Like you almost have to trick the voice it's like gaslight yourself it's like a bypass and then once you're there and you do the set, you're gonna stay regardless. But like that voice is something in and of itself and if you can just learn to kind of like manage it, ignore it, it. I don't know if ignoring it is the right way, but you can just kind of be like oh yeah, no, no, I get it, but like we'll just go and do one set and then we'll see. But yeah, like take the feeling out of it, like it doesn't matter how you feel you have to get up and you have to do it.
Speaker 2:Like you have to take care of yourself, changing your language towards things. Oh, I'm going to the gym tonight at 8 pm.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Like what's your day look like today? I have work and then the gym.
Speaker 1:As opposed to being like I should go to the gym after yeah, no, it's a lot different.
Speaker 2:It's like changing your whole attitude.
Speaker 1:It has to be a priority, Like you have to take care of yourself, Like that's the only thing you have is yourself.
Speaker 2:Life is weight. Choose your heart in pain, on medications, chronic illness, or you can just spend that one hour a day on yourself. And I'm not even sitting here pretending that I go to the gym seven days a week because I don't.
Speaker 1:I don't think you have to.
Speaker 2:It's just a matter of maintaining a balance for you that works. Yeah, I think the way you talk to yourself is really important.
Speaker 1:Huge.
Speaker 2:Like we're going to the gym at seven. That's it Period, not question mark, because I deal with that too. I talk shit to myself too when I work out.
Speaker 1:In like a fucked up kind of way, like sometimes a negative way.
Speaker 2:I'm like oh, you weren't fucking bitching when you were eating that you know that cheeseburger no like you almost have to kind of. Be mean to yourself, yeah.
Speaker 1:Like, not even in a way where tough love yeah, it's like if, yeah, I don't know, I feel like it, like if I lose my keys, I should do like 20 push-ups. Like it's just a way to be like I'm not I'm better than this like functioning at the capacity that I should be functioning at, you know you're the only person who can hold the standard to which you want to live.
Speaker 2:You are the only person.
Speaker 1:I've had two tequila drinks yeah, I'm gonna clip. No, no, that was really good. No, no, that was like that. Like I'm gonna clip that clip that all day.
Speaker 2:Babe put it on tiktok.
Speaker 1:That was really good, but you know what I mean though, yeah no, nobody else you don't have to live with anyone else but yourself.
Speaker 2:Ultimately, and I'm okay with having like five percent body fat. I'm not, I'm probably not what how much, but how much do I? How can you measure your body fat?
Speaker 1:anyway, uh, there's a tool or you can do it like with, like the old school, the pincher pincher which, like anyone like that. So, yeah, you can kind of use this like tool, that kind of just like measures the water throughout your body I used to have one of those pinchers in my house and my dad would do that to us.
Speaker 2:You know, you got a lot of chub here bring out the rice or bring out yeah bring out the rice yeah, no, dinner tonight we're fasting kids
Speaker 1:oh geez yeah, I think language yeah self-talk and tough love yeah, yeah, no, like you have to hold yourself to a certain standard and uphold that standard and there are going to be some days where you don't. Again, I was going to say it doesn't matter if you don't feel like going, and you have to decide between whether you have to realize because a lot of people can't decipher the difference between actually needing rest and them just being lazy actually needing rest and then just being lazy. Like you work two days in a row and and your sore is fucking, you're exhausted, and you're like I, I like my body's telling me I should, I should take a rest day, like that makes sense, but like listen to yourself go too hard and you wake up and you're like, yeah, I'm like kind of tired and and you kind like, oh, no, I'll take a rest day, it'll serve me good.
Speaker 1:like you have to realize that you're just being lazy.
Speaker 2:there's like a fine, there's a line there's a and like.
Speaker 1:Once you can kind of like learn more like about yourself and how that like inner bitch voice works, you'll be able to decipher it a lot more so I've been falling victim to my bitch voice yeah I have some.
Speaker 2:I'm working on some bad habits right now, like I wake up.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 2:And I open fucking Instagram and then 20 minutes goes by, oh dag.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's where.
Speaker 2:The first thing that I've done with my day is fucking scroll social media and I'm on my side in bed and then it's like 9 am and I'm like what the fuck am I doing? If you like, zoom out, zoom out on the world. You're like you're just a little blip on your bed on social media while, like, people are out there already made their getting up getting it in already worked out, had their breakfast, their coffee on a meeting and I'm like I've watched some funny videos what?
Speaker 1:what makes you do that?
Speaker 2:I don't know, habit, mm-hmm. You know I'll check a work email, I'll check this, I'll check my bank account, check my stock, see how that's doing. And then, next thing you know, 20 minutes goes by and I've just used my phone Instead of just like getting up getting out of bed and just going, yeah.
Speaker 2:I'm not good at that and I'm really struggling with how cast and this woman was like. When your alarm goes off, you don't have to sit up and be perky and walk out of bed as if everything's great. She's like crawl out of your bed onto the floor and then crawl on your hands and knees out of your room and I'm like, legitimately, I'm gonna have to start doing that do.
Speaker 1:I don't know what you should do.
Speaker 2:That would be way easier put my phone across the room, the alarm goes off don't use your phone as an alarm.
Speaker 1:Get an old school alarm. I had one. Shut your phone off and put it across the room you didn't have to put it across the room, just I'll snooze even if it's on your nightstand off. No, turn it off and be like every day at let's just, I'm not being literal. Every day at 8 am my phone goes on.
Speaker 2:Well, my alarm goes off at seven so I have an hour before I turn that thing on Simple.
Speaker 1:There is nothing that important that if someone wanted you, they would show up at your doorstep.
Speaker 2:You're right, you're absolutely right. Yeah, we just live in a time where it's just too fucking easy. Yeah, it's just Even like.
Speaker 1:When you own a business it is more difficult. It is when I get up, I check orders, I do this, I do that. But then, like you also have to be like, okay, if you know, if I check my phone 30 minutes before I have to leave.
Speaker 2:My client might have canceled. I don't know.
Speaker 1:But then it's like okay, it's only 10 minutes travel time, so cool, I'll just continue. I'll get in a workout now, you know, but I would definitely try and just shut your phone off.
Speaker 2:Because it's getting toxic. You don't make me feel so much better. I don't even have my screen time tracker on, but I know it's ridiculous.
Speaker 1:Yeah, no, I'm not going to act like mine's not ridiculous.
Speaker 2:We know as business owners, I work from my laptop. Yeah Same, I work from my phone all the time.
Speaker 1:But it's getting yeah, mine's like 13 hours a day.
Speaker 2:Oh what, who said that? Should we do one more?
Speaker 1:question uh, yeah sure. Oh, you said you set an alarm for 8, 45, it's 8 47.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, no, we out guys sorry see ya just end it. Come on, we need, we need, we need a finisher oh, we need a finisher.
Speaker 1:All right, should we do a? Would you rather should we do a question or should we do? It depends on what you have. Or should we do a topic? You rather Should we?
Speaker 2:do a question, or should we do? It depends on what you have.
Speaker 1:Or should we do a topic that we put on our giant list?
Speaker 2:Ooh, what do we have on the giant list?
Speaker 1:Hold on, let me make this more accessible to the general public, me, you, and you know if there's any spirits in here.
Speaker 2:Dad, if you're listening, you didn't hear the part about Never mind, he's listening all the lights, all the lights going out women's vaginal health micropenises you can't, you can't say them out loud micropenises. We talked about women's vaginal health, remember we did the.
Speaker 1:The diagram of not no, yeah, what a planktonton. Yeah, remember, I drew plankton instead of a vagina.
Speaker 2:Oh, what did I do? It's okay.
Speaker 1:All can be fixed.
Speaker 2:Stop hawk-towing.
Speaker 1:I know your limb is two. I'm not even going to offer you another one. You chugged them.
Speaker 2:I had my two. Wait, what the fuck is this Incest? You know what? I think these are really good. What?
Speaker 1:I said washing Because it's kind of far away, like what do? Why we put that? Okay, I like this one pnc okay, yeah, well, yeah, we'll talk about that post, not clarity.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so to give it like contact, shaley and I several weeks ago sat down and had probably like a two-hour conversation about like different, like topics that are, you know, like probably like more general, like more specific, just kind of popular, and it's a giant list and I think from time to time, or on our biweekly cast, we'll just, you know, just dive into some. A little spitball yeah, so one that she just chose. I didn't choose this, she chose this. It's the topic of post-nut clarity.
Speaker 2:Post-nut clarity people.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 2:Talk about it. I want to hear it from a man's perspective post-nut clarity and where, when it really comes in, and do you already have a baseline understanding of how you're going to feel after the fact, depending on the partner?
Speaker 1:Ooh Damn Damn. Okay, yes and no.
Speaker 2:Does it always require you to get to? Finish the job to know where it's going to end. No, no, no.
Speaker 1:No, there's definitely some spectrums to it. There are some people that you know, the minute you bust a nut, that you're definitely gonna regret it, like you know regret yeah, regret it for sure.
Speaker 1:Okay, like there are. There are times like for myself and I had a bunch of like men in my life. Well, like not to not. I don't have as much like male friends anymore, but I know that I don't have as much male friends anymore. But I know that post-night you could be like how did I get here? Literally the minute it happens you're just like where the fuck am I? That's what it feels like. So there are situations like that where you just go down a fucking rabbit hole and you're like, how did I get here? And you're driving home like an hour and a half and you're like, did it get this far? That is, that's how far your ball. That is what it's like being having testosterone just pumping through your vein. And if and if you don't feel like this, go to the howlifecom. Get you, uh, a t booster. Get you a t booster. You need some hollow boost. Don't take three. That'll make you feel like you want to like violently masturbate. Uh, only take one and see how you feel after that.
Speaker 2:But yeah, no, we'll get you right.
Speaker 1:You've done the trials I took three and I I wasn't right in my head, like like the serving size was three and I just I wasn't right, I shouldn't have been out in public. I just like I wasn't right, yeah no, you would add some serious post yeah, no, don't take three.
Speaker 2:Uh, yeah, yeah, no, don't take three of my so like my brand supplements, but but yeah, so the spectrum with the right head yeah, no, you can't.
Speaker 1:sometimes you really can't decipher because, like you think what you're feeling is genuine, and then you, yeah, and then you come to fruition and you're like, literally, you're like how did I get here, how did I get this far? So like that's kind of like the maximum there is like the middle of. Like you genuinely understand that this, probably this isn't going anywhere, and you know that?
Speaker 2:Do you know that prior?
Speaker 1:Sometimes you do. Sometimes you do Sometimes. Yeah, because like some guys, like sometimes they're just looking for that satisfaction.
Speaker 2:Must be nice to come every time.
Speaker 1:Yeah, they probably. Just you know, even before they did it, they're like why am I doing this? But like it's what's available right now.
Speaker 2:We got a comment that says there's even such thing as mid-sex clarity.
Speaker 1:Who said that? Rudy, oh, rudy. Yeah, man, I wasn't going to bring that up, but yeah, it's like yeah. So for women, him and I will talk about that in depth. But yeah, it's like it is a spectrum, like sometimes we know, sometimes we understand and sometimes we're fooled by it, and other times we're like really fooled by it, we're by your horniness yeah, like we're like, no, like this is the one, and then puts the blinders on and yeah, it's a, it's a real thing.
Speaker 1:It creates a real spectrum. It's almost like like picture the men that you would sleep with sober compared to being drunk. We deal with that by just having a penis.
Speaker 2:So you're like you got drunk goggles on when you're, when you're horny horny, it's been a couple months, you know hours.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's what it's like being a man.
Speaker 2:OK, I've received some advice once from a guy and he's just like just jerk off before you leave the house.
Speaker 1:Oh, I mean yeah, Is that?
Speaker 2:a thing.
Speaker 1:It definitely Free nut clarity, See like my issue with that is I think I said this on a podcast once, I don't know if it was with you. I interact with the world differently when I have.
Speaker 2:Empty balls.
Speaker 1:Yes.
Speaker 2:In a better or worse way.
Speaker 1:If I were to leave the house and see a coyote and I had a full sack, I'd be like if it attacked me, I could take it. If I had an empty sack, I'd be like, let me get to my car a little faster.
Speaker 1:Okay, so when you have more testosterone flowing, there's an edge that it kind of gives you. Will that serve you well when you go out to a bar? I don't know, I have never been like a very like, pushy kind of guy, so like I'm not the one to kind of like just to keep it going anyway. So would it serve me? No like, but also like if you jerk off before and then you like meet someone and then you go home when your shit's not working as good or you or you take an hour and a half to come, like that's just no fun for anybody.
Speaker 2:What if you don't jerk off and then you do hang out with the girl and then you come in 30 seconds? What's worse?
Speaker 1:for a guy, he still got the job done, unless he likes the girl.
Speaker 2:What do you mean?
Speaker 1:All right. So the ultimate goal of picking up a girl bringing her home is to bust a nut. So the goal is finished, right.
Speaker 2:But it's just the embarrassment of doing it so fast if you like the girl, if you don't like her, we'll give the shit.
Speaker 1:But if you had a conversation with her that was like kind of intriguing and you're like okay, like there's like more to this, then it would be more of a like damn, my bad, give me like 30, we'll go again. You know what I'm? Trying to say yeah but uh, yeah, so yeah I didn.
Speaker 2:I did have a guy prematurely ejaculate once. This has took off On a first date and he was you know. I wanted to give him credit. He was like I quit porn, I stopped jerking off, like I'm on, like my health, like journey, mental health journey. I'm like was it worth it?
Speaker 2:Well, now you're sitting here with a red face. Was it worth it? But it well, now you're sitting here with a red face, but he was like I'm sorry, he like went to the bathroom and he was like I'll be right back and he like, literally was just like I think, in there like giving himself like a pep talk just contemplating, just like in the mirror, like he's, like, he's like, can I fit out this window?
Speaker 1:no, yeah, I can fit all this window he's like no, like he was halfway through.
Speaker 2:When you want you, good you're good, just a minute, yeah, and I wanted to give him credit just for being like honest, like hey, I'm on a spiritual journey right now.
Speaker 1:I'm not yeah, but also like coming from like a man's perspective. If that happened to me even if that wasn't true, I'd probably just say that just so it might have been a lie.
Speaker 2:I'm on my health kick right now.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that might have just been.
Speaker 2:But it worked though, because I was like good on you, Because, honestly, to spiral into another topic that's, you know we don't have a lot of time but a man admitting that he's laying back on porn for a woman, I'm like, from my perspective, I was like that's incredible that you're willing to admit that that was fucking you up and you're going to stop doing it. Yeah, that's great. I think our generation of men should take a little nugget of advice.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, porn is poison. It's the devil, the devil Poison. I mean, like while you're watching it it doesn't feel like poison, but then like when you try and like like interact with a woman after that, it just makes such unrealistic expectations. 1000%.
Speaker 2:I not outwardly, but I dated someone for a long time who I didn't know had a porn addiction. And now looking back on our physical experiences, Like it made sense. I'm like holy shit, Like this all connects.
Speaker 2:You had a totally unrealistic perception of what sex is yeah totally unrealistic yeah, that's tough so I think, if I could impart any advice from a woman's perspective, if guys could just cool it with the unrealistic porn standards, because honestly, I don't know. I I like it when a guy says, oh, I do watch porn, but I like to watch like you know, like at home stuff, like couples that are filming their own shit. You know what I mean. Couples that are doing like very what's the word I'm looking for?
Speaker 1:I?
Speaker 2:I honestly don't know like when you're not experienced, and it's like at home.
Speaker 1:Amateur.
Speaker 2:Amateur Couples that are doing like amateur at home videos. I respect that when a guy's like that's what I like to watch because it's real. When you got the lights, the bleach blonde, the double D implants, the fucking like strip of hair on the vagina what kind of porn are you watching?
Speaker 2:I'm saying like, come on, I'm fucking with you If on the vagina, what kind of porn are you watching? I'm saying like, come on, if you said what's your favorite porn star, everyone's gonna go, oh, you know, like that, and I don't know any porn stars names other than like pam anderson. But like they're gonna say, oh, that girl, and it's she's gonna. You look up a picture of her. What's she gonna look like?
Speaker 2:yeah that, yeah the cookie cutter porn star yeah and then they go to have sex with a real woman and she's normal and they're like, oh, this is boring, yeah no, it definitely poisons your brain, for sure.
Speaker 1:Like to act like it doesn't, it's just naive. Yeah, like it's asinine, but you didn't answer the question what?
Speaker 2:what was the question? Oh post, not clarity. Yeah, what was the question?
Speaker 1:does it happen to a woman as well?
Speaker 2:yes, I answered for a man I won't want to use the word nut, because women hardly have orgasms on first encounters or 10th or 100th encounters without serious help and assistance. But as far as allowing someone into your body, your vessel, your space, your energy, like, there's definitely been times where I've been in situations where I'm like I want this motherfucker to leave, please leave, please get out of my space. I want this motherfucker to leave. Please leave, please get out of my space. I want to be alone. I want to.
Speaker 1:Like mid, like Rudy's talking about Like mid.
Speaker 2:Honestly, or after there's a little, I'm going to out the ladies here. There's a trick. There's a trick Mid sex. You want it to end. You pretty much have the power to make that happen.
Speaker 1:Wow.
Speaker 2:I want you to come, come for me, baby. He's been holding back the whole time. Anyway, the moment you say do it, he's doing it. You want to get out of a situation.
Speaker 1:I want you to come, that's it. That's all you got to say that's it. I never heard that before, so that's interesting.
Speaker 2:That's all you gotta say, that's it. I never heard that before, so that's interesting. If you ever hear a woman say that and you're four minutes in, you know she's done you know, she's done and then that that ends it.
Speaker 2:and then you're like it's getting late, better go. Yeah, I gotta be up early, but like seriously, there were so many times where I had situations where I'm just like I just want to like put my sweatpants on and go like raid my fridge and just want him gone. Damn, you know, I'm not going to say you never felt that Like I just want to fucking eat and lay here alone.
Speaker 1:But like what you're saying, but like I guess, like like post nut, like clarity would be after you achieve an orgasm. So if you don't like, you still feel that.
Speaker 2:Yes, if the sex was like unfulfilling or you're not really into the person. It's like I prefer to just be alone.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:For women, we just have to like you.
Speaker 1:Interesting.
Speaker 2:We don't go into situations like, oh, I'm going to come tonight. That's the difference between men and women. We don't go out like put on our dress and our heels and go I'm going dress and our heels and go I'm gonna make someone make me come tonight, because that's not gonna happen no, what a man does is like he'll put on some cologne.
Speaker 1:He's like it's literally like, like it's yeah, no, like it's way different.
Speaker 2:I'm a busting out tonight and we're like I'm gonna make a man fall in love with me tonight yeah, it's way different it's such a different experience that we have, like we go out looking as hot as we can just to attract a mate, to make them ours. You guys are like I'm going to come.
Speaker 1:It's such a different experience.
Speaker 2:I love that.
Speaker 1:To be a woman.
Speaker 2:To be a man.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:All right.
Speaker 1:Yeah, this was great.
Speaker 2:It's 9 o'clock.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah.
Speaker 2:Look at that.
Speaker 1:No, nine, oh one. I'm so sorry guys.
Speaker 2:Look at that we out.
Speaker 1:I did get feedback last time that there was like a latency lag between me ending it. So like I like ended it but it didn't like catch up to what we were talking about and then it just ended.
Speaker 2:So what do we do?
Speaker 1:We're just going to sit here in silence and say a prayer.
Speaker 2:I prefer to get out the crystals. Can we say the prayer out loud?
Speaker 1:It is a full moon, so if we put our crystals outside.
Speaker 2:I want to see it.
Speaker 1:If we put our crystals outside, it'll Charge it. Yeah to recharge them, but no, we're going to Appreciate it appreciate everyone. Outro Music
